Vanessa Morales
Staff Reporter
Calling all Demisexuals! Who are they? Demisexuality is highly misunderstood and not common in the LGBTQ+ Community but it is valid.
Now that I have grabbed your attention, what is demisexuality?According to demisexuality.org, “Demisexuality is a sexual orientation in which someone feels sexual attraction only to people with whom they have an emotional bond.” This means that while an average individual will instantly feel attracted to a physically attractive individual, a demisexual’s attraction will solely depend on who they are before feeling remotely attracted at all. Most people believe that this is a natural occurrence in everyone, but anyone who is not demisexual might still feel attracted by someone who fits their type, while demisexuals will not feel attracted without an emotional connection.
It is important to understand demisexuality because the more it is acknowledged, the less demisexual people will feel misunderstood and invalid. Sometimes demisexuals may feel the need to call themselves something they do not identify with just to avoid having to explain who they are. If a heterosexual person can instantly feel understood just by having someone know what their orientation means, then demisexual is just another orientation to understand. It may feel overwhelming to know that there are many different orientations,like demisexuality, but there’s various types of ice cream and no one makes a big fuss about that, everyone has their own preferred flavor.
As a demisexual, I have my own experience to share about this distinctive orientation. When I first found out I was demisexual, I felt a wave of relief because it felt comforting to understand myself as a part of a group that struggled with the same problems as me when it came down to romance. Some problems that come with being demisexual include falling for friends easily, dealing with ignorant people that believe demisexuality does not exist, having to reject others who move too fast in relationships, and feeling different from others for being demisexual. On the plus side, I have a less likely chance of getting in a toxic relationship since I am reviewing an individual’s character before deciding to get close to them romantically.
If you are ever interested in someone who identifies as demisexual, take the time to get to know them. Letting a demisexual get to know you, the real you, will help them feel more comfortable and open to considering a relationship. Demisexuals have boundaries so do not hit on them when you barely know them, it will make them uncomfortable. Even if you do not end up with them, they are usually loyal individuals willing to be there for you even as a friend. Hopefully you have a better understanding of demisexuals now and if you are a demisexual, your lifestyle is very healthy and valid, never let anyone tell you otherwise.
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